As it’s known to us, dating is a very significant part of establishing a relationship before the marriage and before setting up a family. On that sense both in Turkey and China family value is very important to citizens so that finding one’s Romeo or Juliet is very important not only for the couples but also for the whole families behind him/her.
TRADITIONAL DATING IN CHINA AND TURKEY
In Turkey there are more than 30 dating ways，We can separate them into 2 categories which are traditional and modern way dating and marriages . In the traditional way which can reflect much more to the Turkish traditions if male or female want to marry with each other both of them should get permission from their families or from the relatives. There are many reasons but one of the reasons is that and its also common believes that with the marrying of the couples families will be marrying too. It’s the marriage between two families. Because of that most of families try to find someone who is much more suitable for their daughters and son. Nowadays this situation calls `backward-old fashion`. But in Turkey most of people choose this way because of surveys proved that marriages which are done with this way continue long time with the happiness. In China situation is the same. During the ancient time families afforded to find someone for their children. They were going through matchmakers that included family members or friends... At the beginning the matchmaking was unprofessional which means helping to someone find wife and husband was free but then it become as a professional job. Matchmakers began to earn money. A good example to illustrate is one job called “Meiren” in ancient China, that is to say, the matchmaker. Often they are women who devote themselves into making two persons a couple with knowing lots of unmarried ones especially girls. Also matchmakers are divided into two kinds-official matchmakers and private ones. Seen from this, one could get to know that “Meiren” have had a vital influence on marriage. A good matchmaker might be an outstanding persuasive talker. And until today matchmaking system becomes much more professional through the dating companies, through the internet or via TV not just in China or in Turkey but all over the world. Nowadays TVs is like the fathers and mothers of the society because of that children prefer to going to the dating programs....