12 Ways to Get the Best Version of Yourself

Article published on July 1, 2017
Article published on July 1, 2017

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Want to become a better version of yourself? Follow these twelve tips and you’ll notice an improvement in your life.

Do you feel like you’re not quite living up to your full potential? Many people do. They feel like they could do more, go farther, and reach higher, but something is holding them back. If you want to release this inner best version of yourself, it actually doesn’t take much. Here are twelve different things you can do to become a better version of yourself. You can start right now, too! Some of them don’t require anything extra.

1. Appreciate What You Have

Take a moment and think about what you currently have. Do you appreciate it? If not, why not? Appreciating what you’ve accomplished, what you have, and the people in your life is the key to being happy. Feeling satisfied and happy has to come from within yourself, and being grateful for the things you have is one way of making yourself feel more positive. With these positive feelings, you’ll change how you look at life.

2. Make Your Future What You Want it to Be

Most people have goals and dreams for the future, but they don’t have any sort of plan to achieve them. They see where they are and the see the end-point they want, but there’s no path connecting the two. If you want certain things, you’ve got to create that future. It won’t instantly happen just because you want it. You’ve got to actively work to build your future. This doesn’t necessarily mean doing a lot. If your goal is to live longer, for example, you might make it an effort to eat a little better or exercise more often.

3. Accept Yourself

You have to be comfortable and accepting of who you are before you can make yourself better. This doesn’t mean you have to accept your shortcomings, of course—those may be the very things you hope to change by bettering yourself. But you should accept and embrace all of the unique things that make you different from everyone else. Don’t worry about what people think or say about you. You’re uniquely you, and you should be happy about that. Why would you want to be a carbon copy of someone else? 

Your unique talents and skills are also the things that can help you become incredibly successful. Instead of spending time and energy wishing you could change, look at how your unique features can get you ahead in life. You might be surprised that something you considered a detriment can actually be one of your keys to success.

4. Let Yourself Fail

Fear of failure often holds people back from reaching their true potential or their goals. Don’t allow it. If you see failure as the end of something, you’ll start to fear it. Instead, accept it as simply part of the journey. Failure shows you paths that aren’t quite right for you. It’s a way of learning what not to do. If you stop after one failure, you’ll likely rarely succeed at anything. You won’t become the best you can be.

5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

If you surround yourself with negative people, you’re going to start feeling negative. You’ll constantly hear negativity. You’ll start to think and feel more negative, too. If you find yourself spiraling down into a negative void, look at who you’ve surrounded yourself with. Replace these toxic relationships with more positive ones. You’ll find the positivity starts to affect you.

You can also listen to other positive people. For example, if you start listening to the motivational speakers, you may find that you’re more motivated to get out there and take control of your life. It’s similar to the computer programming idea of Garbage In, Garbage Out. If you are always letting negativity into your life, it’s what you’ll start putting out.

6. Always Push Yourself

By deciding to become a better you, you’ve already made the choice to push yourself. Make sure you do this every day. Always look for ways you can do more, go farther, and reach higher. Never settle for who you are—you can always find some area in your life where you can push yourself to do more.

7. Always Keep Learning

Set a goal to learn something new every day. It doesn’t have to be anything major, just always be willing to learn new things and increase your knowledge. You could get a word of the day calendar, read a new fun fact each day, or simply listen to people. You’ll learn a lot more by listening than you might think. Everything you learn enriches your life and could make new situations or challenges much easier.

8. Use Your Time Wisely

Have you maximized your time? That doesn’t mean you have to be doing something every minute of every day, but it does mean you need to know how to invest your time correctly. If you’re using your time in a way that helps you develop and grow, you’re using it wisely. If you’re not, you might need to reconsider what you’re doing. Again, this doesn’t mean you always have to be actively doing something. If you’ve had a rough, stressful day, it’s a very wise use of time to watch a movie or TV because you need to relax.

9. Stick to Your Goals

If you set a goal, stick to it. Work towards that goal and don’t be content until you reach it. Of course, this means those goals need to be realistic. If you can’t reach a goal because it’s simply not possible, it’s going to be more detrimental than having no goal at all. 

10. Always Look for the Good

There’s good in everything and in everyone. Always look for it. If a project has massively failed, look at what knowledge you can take away from it. That’s the good. Find that silver lining and appreciate it, even while recognizing that everything else went wrong.

11. Work on Perfecting Your Skills

While learning new things is great, you also need to take the time to hone the skills you do have. There’s always room to grow, so look to see what the next level is and reach for it. Practice playing music, singing, or creating art. The more of it you do, the better you’ll get.

12. Remember the Small Things

You don’t have to do something huge to feel good and joyful. Happiness can be found in any number of small, simple things. Someone’s smile, a good lunch, your favorite song—all of these can make you happy. You don’t need big, expensive things.